When you least expect it...

Well what do ya know? I stop looking, I get frustrated and mad at myself and POOF! Something with potential. A boy with potential. I am now 100% a believer that these things happen when you least expect it; because clearly, by my last post, I was absolutely not expecting this. If you don't want to listen to me be a giddy girl, stop reading right.....now.


My mind is absolutely blown. I'm still having a rough time with accepting that it's okay for someone to actually be this nice to me. Like, it's okay for me to have butterflies and want to talk to someone. I don't absolutely have to be as independent as I have been for the last few months. I deserve to be treated respectfully by a boy, not as a convenience but as a valued part of someone's day. We've done absolutely nothing but hang out and talk and get to know each other. It started with a group of people, and now we're pretty comfortable just hanging out by ourselves. And as much as a part of me is sometimes like, "Oh my gosh, this is moving so slowly," I'm glad that it is. I'm not in a rush for anything. I don't want a strong commitment right now - I'm about to spend a month of my life having the time of my life in Costa Rica. But I just feel so comfortable; I don't feel like I have to try and be someone I'm not. I don't feel like I have to dress to impress all the time. My roommate was joking with me today before he came over with help on homework and she said, "You're nervous!" and I replied with, "No, I'm not nervous at all and that's the part that's really strange!" Conversation flows easily. He can take my sass and he can dish it back at me, without being a douche bag about it. We can be serious and we can be funny.

Don't worry. I'm not getting ahead of myself. I do realize school is over in two weeks and that I'm leaving for Costa Rica in four. But I'm also not counting this one out entirely. Yeah...there's not a lot of time left now, but you never know what could happen in the next semester, right? Maybe it will be worth waiting the whole summer for. Or maybe it won't. You can't know for certain; it just takes time. I've just got a good feeling.

It still makes me nervous that I feel this way sometimes. I still get a little inkling to run because I know that I'm making myself vulnerable to be hurt. But even if I do get hurt...I lived through the first couple and I can make it through another one, if I have to. I know I can. I just gotta keep reminding myself of that. And I gotta remember to just take it one. day. at. a. time.

But in the mean time....EEEEEP!!!!! :D

A Little Bit of a Crossroads

This is going to be a strange post. I feel a little bit weird even writing it down because it's something my brain hasn't even fully acknowledged up until quite recently. But it's a journey in my life, so therefore I think it's something that I should have written down, at least once. This is going to start with some really random and unexpected stuff, but I can pretty much promise it won't end the way you'd assume it would.

For the past few weeks, I've been having dreams about my ex-boyfriend. Dreams where he's trying to win me back, willing to do whatever it takes to be with me again. And in my dreams, there is not a doubt in my mind (dream mind and real mind) that I would not take him back no matter what he did. Of course, I have a hard time being mean to him, although he deserves it more than anyone else I know, but my lack of directness with him in these dreams is never confused with uncertainty about my feelings for him. When I woke up after the first one, I was pretty proud. I gave myself a pat on the back and said, "Hell no, we'd never take that stranger back!" But then it happened again - different scene, same concept. And again. And again. And again.

So then I just got frustrated. Why is this happening? Why now? I don't ever see him, I very rarely think of him, and not once have I missed him. So why all these dreams? I don't have an answer to that (see, not the conclusion you were expecting).

The only thing I can think of that could be even remotely related is my recent adventures into the inner workings of my mind that have brought up my issues with trust of the male species. And generally, that lack of trust is something that he as a symbol is representative of. Possibly? Sounds at least a little logical, right?

I'm gaining confidence in all aspects of my life. I love myself, I love who I am, and I love the potential I see for myself in the future. But I still grapple almost daily with the ability to trust. Let's be honest, I fight myself to convince myself to even believe the people that are closest to me. And it's always the boys. I don't know...my skepticism doesn't fit with the rest of my life and my character. It doesn't make sense to me, so I don't even know where to start to make it better.

I've been writing this post for a couple days. Because it's hard for me to figure out what to say, it's hard for me to understand, and I feel like I should have come up with some sort of solution by now. But I haven't. I'm over the first boy, but I'm left with all this baggage that I don't know what to do with. Just yesterday I confidently had a conversation with a boy who I had a little spark for; but I'm already in the process of convincing myself that there's no potential and that I don't really even like him even a little. The same as always.

I don't know where to begin. So rather than begin, I just keep to myself and let it all pass by.

I'm sick and I'm tired and I'm mad at myself. Hmph.

Extended Absence

Guess what?? That time of the year where I have to abandon my blogging for term papers and projects and reading snuck up on me this year! Or maybe it just started earlier than normal. Hm. Well either way, the last few weeks have not been without their challenges, but I'm enjoying the semi-calm of spring break this week and preparing myself for the storm ahead.

I was in some rough patches, some doubts, the last couple of times I wrote. I had to go back and read them. Something had shaken me, I don't know if it was something specific or I was just feeling mentally week, but something was off. Either way, I got over that since then. I'm feeling good again. I'm feeling blessed. The dullness of everyday life is still there, but I know with time, adventure will come. And for the time being, I just need to make the best of what I have and make it through the rough stuff so that I can enjoy the future. :)

Remember when I posted about the potential of living by myself, and how it was and idea I'd been playing with? Well, between house-sitting and spring break, I've gotten a chance to really try that idea out. And...I think I'm sold. It's great. It's relaxing and quiet and clean. I just feel like so much of my life is LOUD and CHAOTIC that it's nice to come home in the afternoon and just have peace and quiet. Don't get me wrong, I love my roommates, but having my own space is ingrained in me. I never shared a room as a child because it was just me; I was thrown into school where I lived with three other girls and I adjusted better than many people expected me too. But I really do love my independence. And it just feels so much more free when it's just me. I'm going to enjoy it for the next few days, that's for sure.

You'll have to forgive me if the next four weeks don't involve a lot of writing. I will come back, I love it too much to stop. It's not that I don't have things to say - I always have things to say and thoughts running through my mind - I just don't always have the time to write them down.