A Little Bit of a Crossroads

This is going to be a strange post. I feel a little bit weird even writing it down because it's something my brain hasn't even fully acknowledged up until quite recently. But it's a journey in my life, so therefore I think it's something that I should have written down, at least once. This is going to start with some really random and unexpected stuff, but I can pretty much promise it won't end the way you'd assume it would.

For the past few weeks, I've been having dreams about my ex-boyfriend. Dreams where he's trying to win me back, willing to do whatever it takes to be with me again. And in my dreams, there is not a doubt in my mind (dream mind and real mind) that I would not take him back no matter what he did. Of course, I have a hard time being mean to him, although he deserves it more than anyone else I know, but my lack of directness with him in these dreams is never confused with uncertainty about my feelings for him. When I woke up after the first one, I was pretty proud. I gave myself a pat on the back and said, "Hell no, we'd never take that stranger back!" But then it happened again - different scene, same concept. And again. And again. And again.

So then I just got frustrated. Why is this happening? Why now? I don't ever see him, I very rarely think of him, and not once have I missed him. So why all these dreams? I don't have an answer to that (see, not the conclusion you were expecting).

The only thing I can think of that could be even remotely related is my recent adventures into the inner workings of my mind that have brought up my issues with trust of the male species. And generally, that lack of trust is something that he as a symbol is representative of. Possibly? Sounds at least a little logical, right?

I'm gaining confidence in all aspects of my life. I love myself, I love who I am, and I love the potential I see for myself in the future. But I still grapple almost daily with the ability to trust. Let's be honest, I fight myself to convince myself to even believe the people that are closest to me. And it's always the boys. I don't know...my skepticism doesn't fit with the rest of my life and my character. It doesn't make sense to me, so I don't even know where to start to make it better.

I've been writing this post for a couple days. Because it's hard for me to figure out what to say, it's hard for me to understand, and I feel like I should have come up with some sort of solution by now. But I haven't. I'm over the first boy, but I'm left with all this baggage that I don't know what to do with. Just yesterday I confidently had a conversation with a boy who I had a little spark for; but I'm already in the process of convincing myself that there's no potential and that I don't really even like him even a little. The same as always.

I don't know where to begin. So rather than begin, I just keep to myself and let it all pass by.

I'm sick and I'm tired and I'm mad at myself. Hmph.