I knew it was going to be a sassy day when I woke up this morning.

I don't do well with people subtly trying to tell me that something I'm doing is not a good decision. Typically, they try to sneak around it and then I call them out directly and then it results in an argument. Because I get defensive over the attack and they get mad that they weren't sneaky enough and their plan blew up in their face. Typically.

The reason I get defensive is people usually have no "so what?" as one of my favorite English teachers would say, to their argument. One I've been hearing a lot of lately is, "You could do better than him," to which I respond, "So what?" And from there it usually deteriorates into pointless arguing. I get that people care about me and whatever, but a lot of times those statements come from people who probably don't really care that much, or don't really know what they are talking about. Yes, I do get defensive. But when someone is pretty much insinuating you're not competent to make your own decisions and don't think things through all the way, wouldn't you get defensive too?

Who do you think I am? Have I ever been someone to go blindly into a situation without thinking about the positive and negative consequences of my actions? I don't think so... I know that I have the potential to come out of this situation looking like the stupid one, standing up for someone against the words of everyone else, and them choosing their old reputation over the one I had faith in. I am well aware that is a possibility. But I also know that people change, and that this person, who has done nothing to me to prove he's not worthy of a chance, could be truthful and honest with me and may appreciate me more for being one of the few even willing to give him a chance.

I'm working on not going into every situation thinking someone wants to hurt me; it's hard. But I'm stubborn and I'm persistent. Please don't tell me how to live my life if you don't know the whole story.